A timely reprint from a blog on AlexDelon.com. Domestic violence has surged through the Covid-19 lockdowns. If you need help, please reach out. You’re not alone and you are worth fighting for! Here’s my story of desperation. It’s the day I gloved up and began to fight for myself. ~~~~~~ This has been a strange […]
Drop the Weight of Narcissistic Abuse
Drop the Weight of Narcissistic Abuse I can’t keep carrying this load! I’m tired! I’m exhausted! My shoulders hurt. My neck hurts. My back hurts. My head hurts. My heart hurts!I am collapsing under this load. For my own sanity’s sake, I have to set this load down. I can’t carry all this pain anymore. […]
Nature-Nurture and Wa La…the Narcissist?
Could a thing like Object Relations Theory be a clue to understanding why communicating with a narcissistic individual can spin us in dizzy circles? I read an article by Dr. Elinor Greenberg, a real deal specialist in defining and diagnosing baffling character disorders. The article magnetized puzzle pieces to fit, explain, clear the mist of […]
Whatever Happened to Self-Compassion?
Whatever Happened to Self-Compassion? Somewhere along the way, we have completely lost touch with self-compassion. If we feel sorry for ourselves or spend some time taking care of ourselves, we are often overwhelmed with guilt and shame. We think we are being selfish and should be spending our time caring for others. Or we think […]
Fight for Yourself….For Your Kids
Fight For Yourself…For Your Kids When I married my husband, I was clueless about all of this. I had never even heard the word narcissism. I had no clue what emotional abuse was. Words like gaslighting, projection, and circular conversations were not a part of my vocabulary. I was madly in love and truly thought […]
Guilt Manipulation: A Powerful Tool of Covert Narcissists
Many of us are raised to feel guilty when we have done something we shouldn’t have or that hurts someone we love. Guilt is a natural feeling, and this is not a bad thing. Guilt is an uncomfortable feeling inside, and it motivates us. It drives to apologize and reconcile. We want to make amends […]
Perspective: The Effect of Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic Abuse and Your Perspective When you change your perspective, everything changes!! I am realizing more and more how true this statement is. Your perspective is everything. Your perspective tells you: Whether something is a big deal or not Whether you should be offended by something or not Whether something is your fault or not […]
Two Simple and Effective Tools for Healing the Pain of Narcissistic Abuse
TWO SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE TOOLS FOR HEALING THE PAIN OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE Do you feel that narcissism is everywhere? The red flags of narcissistic abuse are all around us. Even the very word “narcissism” is plastered all over the internet. We are seeing the effects of the abuse in ourselves, our kids, other family members, […]
Emotional Safety for Our Kids
EMOTIONAL SAFETY FOR OUR KIDS Damaging Our Kids How much damage are we doing to our own kids? You may think that it is only your toxic partner that is hurting them, but you will be surprised to find that you are perhaps adding to that damage too. “I was SO wrapped up in trying […]