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Toxic Relationships

Going Crazy Because of Covert Narcissism?Covert Narcissism, Emotional Abuse, Toxic RelationshipsCrazy-making

Trying to explain covert narcissism to someone who has not lived it is enough to make you feel entirely crazy! As if living the nightmare of the relationships isn’t enough! The conversation with that friend usually goes something like this: Me: I am having a really tough time communicating with him. Friend: Why? Me: He […]

Unreasonable Expectations of NarcissistsEmotional Abuse, Journey of Healing, Toxic RelationshipsUnreasonable expectations of narcissists

Unreasonable Expectations of Narcissists Excessive admiration! Automatic compliance! Ideal love! Favorable treatment! Constant recognition of their “specialness!” These are only a few of the expectations that a person with narcissistic personality disorder carries. Their sense of entitlement supports their unrealistic expectations. They expect to be worshiped. They expect unreasonable admiration and compliance to their every […]

You ARE Worth Fighting For!Additional Resources, Beginning Again, Depression, Journey of Healing, Relationships-Beyond Dysfunction, Toxic Relationships

A timely reprint from a blog on AlexDelon.com. Domestic violence has surged through the Covid-19 lockdowns. If you need help, please reach out. You’re not alone and you are worth fighting for! Here’s my story of desperation. It’s the day I gloved up and began to fight for myself. ~~~~~~ This has been a strange […]

Should We Give Our Narcissistic Ex Another Chance?Covert Narcissism, Emotional Abuse, Relationships-Beyond Dysfunction, Toxic Relationships, Understanding Narcissism

Should we go another round? Stats suggest that we leave an emotionally and/or physically abusive relationship 7 times before we leave for good. That said, there appears to be seven rounds in abusive relationship bouts. Which indicates we answer the above question with a whispered “Yes” and we try yet again approximately S E V […]

Stop Relationship Boundary Battles…Covert Narcissism, Toxic Relationships

I was never good at setting boundaries. They were aggressive and that’s not how to handle a hot-headed narcissistic man or woman. Shortly after I walked away we signed an agreement not to spend over a certain dollar amount without consent from both of us, not to sell assets, that kind of thing. Those boundaries […]

Nature-Nurture and Wa La…the Narcissist?Covert Narcissism, Emotional Abuse, Helping Our Kids, Toxic Relationships, Understanding Narcissism

Could a thing like Object Relations Theory be a clue to understanding why communicating with a narcissistic individual can spin us in dizzy circles? I read an article by Dr. Elinor Greenberg, a real deal specialist in defining and diagnosing baffling character disorders. The article magnetized puzzle pieces to fit, explain, clear the mist of […]

To Leave a Narcissist, Do We Feel Like a Narcissist?Beginning Again, Covert Narcissism, Emotional Abuse, Toxic Relationships

In a Narcissistic relationship, do we have to be like them to leave them? This isn’t a trick question. If you even considered it leaving a narcissist…you get it. The narcissist wouldn’t identify something they did as “Narcissistic”. Ever. Their defense mechanisms would kick in to justify their actions as they projected the blame unto […]

The Narcissist’s Inner CircleCodependence, Covert Narcissism, Emotional Abuse, Relationships-Beyond Dysfunction, Toxic Relationships

Friends—Codependents—or are the narcissist’s inner circle of friends the Duped and Dangerous? The narcissist often collects a covey of opposite sex friends…close friends…women or men they no longer–or may never have had sex with. Why? Who are these pals? Why do they hover around him? What need or desire do these mental mistresses or misters […]

Reconciliation or Alienation: How Conflict is Handled Speaks VolumesDiscovery & Recovery, Toxic Relationships, Understanding Narcissism

Reconciliation or Alienation: How Conflict is Handled Speaks Volumes Every person alive has offended and upset the people they love most. We all do it. Just because someone has upset you or offended you does not make them a toxic person or a narcissist. Do not place this judgment here! You need to go a […]

Fight for Yourself….For Your KidsCounter Parenting, Discovery & Recovery, Helping Our Kids, Toxic Relationships

Fight For Yourself…For Your Kids When I married my husband, I was clueless about all of this. I had never even heard the word narcissism. I had no clue what emotional abuse was. Words like gaslighting, projection, and circular conversations were not a part of my vocabulary. I was madly in love and truly thought […]

Guilt Manipulation: A Powerful Tool of Covert NarcissistsCovert Narcissism, Discovery & Recovery, Emotional Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Uncategorized, Understanding Narcissism

Many of us are raised to feel guilty when we have done something we shouldn’t have or that hurts someone we love. Guilt is a natural feeling, and this is not a bad thing. Guilt is an uncomfortable feeling inside, and it motivates us. It drives to apologize and reconcile. We want to make amends […]

We are Not Allowed to be HumanDiscovery & Recovery, Emotional Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Understanding Narcissism

We are Not Allowed to be Human A covert narcissist’s humanness hangs all out for you to see. They seem to not have a care in the world about what you or the kids think of them. My ex spent all of his non-working hours with his feet up, playing video games and watching movies. […]

Perspective: The Effect of Narcissistic AbuseEmotional Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Understanding Narcissismperspective

Narcissistic Abuse and Your Perspective When you change your perspective, everything changes!! I am realizing more and more how true this statement is. Your perspective is everything.  Your perspective tells you: Whether something is a big deal or not Whether you should be offended by something or not Whether something is your fault or not […]

Forgiveness may not mean what you think it meansBrilliance after Abuse, Discovery & Recovery, Emotional Abuse, Toxic Relationships

FORGIVENESS MAY NOT MEAN WHAT YOU THINK IT MEANS Among abuse survivors, I hear a lot of debate over whether we should forgive our abuser or not. In fact, this is often a heated topic. Some victims think that the only way to heal is through forgiving your abuser. Then you can let go and […]

Breadcrumbs of Love from a NarcissistCodependence, Emotional Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Understanding Narcissism

Imagine a dog that has been neglected. It lives in a home with an owner. The potential for love and care is there, but yet it doesn’t exist. The dog is ignored most of the time. When it does manage to grab the attention of the owner, the owner is mean and harsh. He yells […]

Life with a Narcissist: An Exhaustion Like No OtherDiscovery & Recovery, Emotional Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Understanding Narcissismexhaustion

LIFE WITH A NARCISSIST: AN EXHAUSTION LIKE NO OTHER My 18-year old son recently said to me, “Mom, no marriage is perfect and no individual is perfect. Sure. And if only you had done “XYZ…ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVW” then maybe your marriage to dad could have possibly worked. But he couldn’t even do “A” so there is no […]

EMERGENCY SOS on Your Phones to the RESCUE!Additional Resources, Help and Hotline Information, Relationships-Beyond Dysfunction, Self Defense, Toxic Relationships

Medical Emergency SOS Services GIVE YOURSELF AN EDGE AGAINST PREDATORS Be a Savvy-Sly Badass Not a Victim! With the touch of a button or two we can AUDIBLY or SILENTLY call emergency services with our iPhone, Apple Watch and select Androids. They will simultaneously alert emergency services, flash our location to them and to personal […]

Two Simple and Effective Tools for Healing the Pain of Narcissistic AbuseDiscovery & Recovery, Emotional Abuse, Toxic Relationships

TWO SIMPLE AND EFFECTIVE TOOLS FOR HEALING THE PAIN OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE Do you feel that narcissism is everywhere? The red flags of narcissistic abuse are all around us. Even the very word “narcissism” is plastered all over the internet. We are seeing the effects of the abuse in ourselves, our kids, other family members, […]

CODEPENDENTS TAKE THE RAP?Additional Resources, Codependence, Discovery & Recovery, Emotional Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Understanding Narcissism

Pitfalls of Keeping the Peace… Playing the Peacekeeper becomes a core focus for those in relationships with a narcissist. We’re no quitters, but neither are they. Some argue that codependents share the responsibility for the unhealthy behavior, because their main focus of ‘keeping the peace’ is dependent upon countering the unhealthy family member’s behavior, like […]

7 Common Things the Narcissist Says to Undermine YouDiscovery & Recovery, Emotional Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Understanding Narcissism

7 COMMON THINGS THE NARCISSIST SAYS TO UNDERMINE YOU Narcissistic people are extremely skilled at making you doubt yourself. They can turn the most confident person in the world into a messy ball of insecurity. Without even realizing it happened! All of sudden you realize that you are doubting every thought you have, every word […]

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