looking for women over 50 who are leaving their narc

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  • #648
    Thisisme.
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    title says all. are there other women here in my age group?

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    Renee Swanson
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    4leafclover,

    It is hard to let go of that dream of what we thought our life would be. It took me many years to finally let go, and occasionally, it still sneaks in some. You are certainly not alone in this! Keep your eyes focused on now. Today is the beginning of the rest of your life.

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    Inthemix
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    Thanks 4LeafClover and Renee.

    4LeafClover, keep working at your awareness of needing validation. Increasing awareness will help you to be more observant and objective, and less caught in that need. Stay connected.

    Renee, you tell the truth. I guess I know it too. Just tough to let go of the fantasy of connecting with someone. Though it is reality with most people who don’t have narcissistic tendencies.

    Yes, it has been peaceful. He has pretty much ignored me, and left open his computer on books and articles on “choosing whether to leave or stay” and “quick divorce”. Maybe he is just self absorbed and not expressly wanting me to see these things. I’m kinda over it in any case.

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    Kat
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    Hi! I’m in my 50’s. Separated for a couple months headed toward divorce.

    I’m just learning about covert narcissism. I always knew something wasn’t right but he did not fit the usual Narc patterns. CN .. he could be the poster boy.

    Even though his heinous behaviors and lies are what led to this, he is playing the victim BIG TIME!

    I’m told to hang on for a very long, shitty and expensive ride through court. I’m exhausted already.

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    Renee Swanson
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    Hey Kat!

    Welcome to the group! I am so sorry for what you are going through. Every divorce is different. I was braced for a long and tough process, and I was so surprised when the whole divorce was done in 3 months.

    My husband was actually very cooperative because he was clinging so hard to his own image that he was a wonderful husband. He played the victim role, and I didn’t defend myself anymore. I was the one filing for divorce. I was the one doing this awful thing. That was just fine by me! I was too exhausted to try to explain it all to him yet again. All my friends and family knew the truth. I had nothing to prove to him anymore. So he held onto his victim role and image of being a great husband, and I got a peaceful and quick divorce.

    I wish you much peace!!
    Renee

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