Renee, thank you for your advice on what to say. I am just starting the divorce. I agreed to uncontested because he started trying to set up residency in Washington State. He has threatened me with seeking alimony after he voluntarily quit his job! He is the one that had the girlfriend that was 32 years younger than him. He blames me for that also! Anyway, I have agreed to uncontested and now he is threatening to still contest just to cause me financial problems. I am hopeful that by rephrasing things as you suggested I will be able to get this done with little hassle. I am 62 and feel afraid at this age to start over again.
ROR – how is it going? Please remember that you are getting your life back! You are not entirely starting over. You have so much greater knowledge and strength now than before. You are simply entering a new phase!