Oh!! Almost forgot. Read the book, Splitting, by Bill Eddy if you haven’t already, and Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft. Both are excellent reads; Splitting is a relatively short playbook for divorcing a high conflict person (I haven’t re-read it recently, but I’d think it’s relevant for subsequent litigation too), and WDHDT is the abuser’s…[Read more]

You are not alone. My children are very young and I have more than a decade before I expect to be done with litigation. It’s been 5 years since my divorce, and there have been 3 lawsuits so far. His entire family supports him financially and otherwise and they work in the system.

Thus far my ex has been able to conceal his abuse of the kids. I…[Read more]