Mariab – So happy for you that the mask was ripped off. I’m in the early stages of divorce from my wife who’s a covert narc. Been married 25 years. Finally went to couples counseling a little over a year ago. About 6-7 months into therapy, we decided the marriage was ending. Well, it took all of a couple months for her to jump into another relationship. We weren’t separated or divorced when she started the relationship. We were still living in the same house and sharing a room. Of course she feels absolutely entitled to be involved in this new relationship. Doesn’t feel the slightest bit guilty. I’m hearing horror stories about divorcing a covert narc. We’re going the route of mediation. Really hoping we can stick with it and avoid costly legal fees. We’ll see.My heart goes out to all of you married to a narc. It’s the absolute worst experience you can possibly have in a marriage. I could write a book about all of the crazy making encounters I’ve had with her over the years.