I’m not single yet, but the best advice I got from a therapist was to explore what interests ME. For the longest time I didn’t know what I wanted because I was so consumed with what he wanted. Now I have outside interests. I go to movies by myself and sit in one of those comfy chairs, I walk the dog on my own twice a day. I call friends and get a few of us together. I joined a triathlon club with a friend, and love the community and the cross-training part of it! I connect on social media for the joy and positivity of being connected with long distance friends and family. And I make plans to get away with friends, or to see other family, without my husband. I would think I will want to do these things as well once separated.

Creating the life I love, that gets me jazzed – that is for me only.