Just lost everything I wrote!! My fault. So will abbreviate a bit more this time!

By the time you’ve worked out that he’s a covert narcissist your friends and family are either bored, don’t get it, or don’t really believe you (Cassandra Phenomenon). Its hard to explain and quantify. Leaves you very lonely.

You are suffering from OTRS (Ongoing Traumatic Relationship Stress), please read! link:

The burden on NT spouses and children, OTRS

Don’t be put off by the word aspergers, OTRS applies in just the same way to narcissism. Mine has both. The realisation of Aspergers came first then Narcissism, then Covert Narcissism. I then found out that Narcissism and Aspergers were so similar that it can be difficult to work out which one you’re dealing with. Also that the two conditions are often found together, so the person has a mixture of the two conditions. In fact I believe the effect on him of having Aspergers whilst growing up lead to the creation of the narcissistic false self. If you are interested this link outlines the two conditions and why people find it difficult to here are two charts showing the two conditions:

https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/narcissism-vs-aspergers-how-can-i-tell-the-difference-1114174?fbclid=IwAR3WZi5l9_hpttkzeeKqjiOys3axpcCYt2qFwPiV6ccs3pb7UPKRpz0mHdY

My son tells me it is time to play frisbee so I’m off for now. I very much hope to hear from you all.

Lots of love
Emma