Thank you Renee,
Yes his comment said it all!
Part of my journey is definitely about finding emotional security from within and this is ultimately a positive side effect of having been with someone who has given me emotional insecurity!
Your kids are blessed to have you too. A big shout to all us mums who are working through this, well done us!!
I’m so looking forward to living alone with the boys, no more tension, just lots of fun and lots of laughs, a lighthearted joyous home.
There is no doubt that I am the one who supports them emotionally, I am their safety, and we are very close. The next step is removing them from this environment which won’t be for 18 months.
They are…[Read more]
Emma started the topic Recovery and an example of the way a narc toys with you in the forum Healing Time: Moving on Now 9 months, 3 weeks ago
I cannot agree with this more. For me its been so awful for 15 years that for the first time in my life I DO NOT WANT another relationship until I have recovered. In the past I have looked for someone to take care of me in emotional terms, almost co-dependent, not any more!
I went on a retreat for a week 18 months ago, I made the…[Read more]
Just thought I’d add the definition of OTRS in case you don’t read the link:
OTRS is a normal response in neurotypical (NT) people as a result of prolonged traumatic stress in an intimate relationship. Symptoms are similar to those seen in people who continuously, for a long time, are exposed to emotional and psychological torture, both mental…[Read more]
I’m so glad to have this forum, thank you for setting it up and not making me feel so alone.
I would like to add that whist people with aspegers unintentionally upset people. People with narcissism do it intentionally.
I look forward to more discussion!
Just lost everything I wrote!! My fault. So will abbreviate a bit more this time!
By the time you’ve worked out that he’s a covert narcissist your friends and family are either bored, don’t get it, or don’t really believe you (Cassandra Phenomenon). Its hard to explain and quantify. Leaves you very lonely.
You are suffering from OTRS (Ongoing…[Read more]