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Rebecca replied to the topic Circular Conversations in the forum What is Narcissism 2 years, 2 months ago
Have not ever witnessed or experienced *this* particular type of “circular conversation” in which there is no conversation, there is no argument, it is absolutely just a lecture, period.
Have definitely been involved in some extremely strange conversations, however.
The kind that make me want to literally *never* have *any* sort of conversation with *that* person ever again.
I’m not really sure why your ex-husband called it a “conversation” when he actually meant a lecture, but that sounds different from what I *thought* “circular conversation” meant.
Possibly these two things may actually be just variations of the same things.
Recently I wrote to a person I don’t feel comfortable having conversations with any more.
There were important things that I just really needed to say, once and for all, so I said them.
Originally I did think that she might write back, but when she didn’t, it became a monologue.
I think it is certainly possible that she might have enough common sense still left to figure that she just did not want to (ever again) give me any more evidence that she thought I could possibly use against her.
And I’m starting to feel the same way about contacting her.
Evidently it works both ways.
Once again this is (in most ways) actually quite different from what you’re talking about. But I was getting reminded.
Note. Any evidence I ever get against her is used *only* to do research about her problems or potential problems or to point out where she may possibly be wrong.
NOT to just throw it back in her face.
But she probably does not know the difference any more, and I can certainly understand how for privacy reasons she would probably prefer that I not know anything.
(Or at least, not know anything beyond the dozens of clues she has already given me.)
(She herself tends to seem somewhat clueless, which is exactly why I sometimes call her that [only to myself, not to her, but privately that’s become my nickname for her] [I do not believe in name-calling, this was when I just needed a name to refer to her by besides her actual name].)