He made everything impossible, and yet expected me to fix it all. Then when I couldn’t do it, he blamed me for everything! This is absolutely psychological abuse and will drive you to insanity!
HE made conversations so incredibly difficult and told me it was all my fault that we didn’t talk.
HE created fear in everyone and blamed me that he couldn’t communicate with anyone.
HE checked out of the lives of his boys and told me that I destroyed his relationship with them.
HE did not engage in our world and blamed me for the distance.
HE isolated himself and blamed me that he had no friends.
HE chose his own actions and yet made me feel guilty for them.
Now that I see it with open eyes, I can finally let go of all the guilt and blame. It was NOT my fault! I did not choose for him to be sharp and cold. I did not choose for him to shut down conversations. I did not choose for him to create environments where no one felt emotionally safe. I did not choose for him to check out and hide in his games and movies. I did not choose for him to abandon his family. These were his choices!!
But now, I did choose to walk away! I will not accept the blame anymore for an environment that he creates. I choose to treat people with love and compassion. I choose to create an atmosphere of openness and freedom. I choose to welcome others into my life with open arms. I choose to establish an environment of peace!
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