I Can’t Fix This! My Shit-Sweeping Broom So the first 10 years of our marriage were seen by him and the world as nearly perfect. We never fought and hardly ever disagreed. We were told repeatedly that we were such a wonderful fit and seemed so happy together. Why? Because I was using a shit-sweeping […]
From Victim to Survivor to Victor When you are dealing with a covert narcissist, it is so incredibly hard to see the abuse, especially at first. You may know that something is wrong in the relationship, but you are just as likely to blame yourself as you are to blame your partner. In fact, you […]
The Apology Dodging of a Narcissist I have never met anyone better at dodging apologizing than a narcissist. They are experts at it. Their sense of superiority causes them to never feel that they are in the wrong. Other “inferior” individuals are always to blame. So for them to apologize requires that they lower themselves […]
The Exhaustion of Counter Parenting Let me start by saying that dealing with a narcissist is completely tiresome, in and of itself. I know all too well. It’s been 20 years for me. But trying to co-parent with them sends you to a whole new level of exhaustion. It is 24/7, 365 days a year. […]
Narcissists take NO personal responsibility Do you ever wonder why you find yourself carrying all the responsibility in your relationship? Do you find yourself listening to excuse after excuse for his or her bad behavior? Are you tired of hearing why it’s okay THIS time? Excuses pile up – I had a bad childhood. My […]
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8 Signs of Circular Conversations What is a circular conversation? Let me start by saying these aren’t conversations. They are verbal competitions and even warfare. Narcissists don’t use conversations to find understanding and compromise. They use them to win. These conversations are extremely planned and manipulated. There is absolutely no such thing as spontaneity. There […]
How to Help Yourself When Dealing with a Narcissist If you are waiting for the Narcissist in your life to take care of you, you will wait for a VERY long time. They will not, they cannot, and they never will. Not only will the wait be long, it will be painful, frustrating, exhausting, and […]
Leave or Stay for the Kids Should I leave for my kids or should I stay for my kids? This has to be one of the toughest questions I have ever faced in life. What is right for the kids? Which way is the least damaging to their young hearts? How do I protect them […]