How the Covert Narcissist Plays Rejection, Abandonment, and Abuse My marriage lasted almost 21 years. For most of these years, I convinced myself and the world that I had the perfect marriage. We were simply great together. There was no other option available. The mind is powerful and can do amazing things. I truly believed […]
The Sting of Covert Narcissism
The Sting of Covert Narcissism Covert narcissism is messed up! It is so twisted you feel like you are going insane just trying to get a grasp on what’s going on. It is so hard to pinpoint and impossible to describe. You can’t possibly explain it to someone who hasn’t experienced it themselves. Trying to […]
Living Like a Blind Fool
Living Like a Blind Fool You stomped all over my feelings, Smashing them again and again, Like a bull, thrashing in a China shop. No awareness and no remorse. Living like a blind fool. I forgave you, though apologies never came, Blaming myself again and again, Like a mouse, afraid of my own feelings. […]
No Reconciliation Ever with a Narcissist
No Reconciliation Ever with a Narcissist In relationships, you are certainly going to upset each other from time to time. You are going to hurt each other’s feelings. You are going to upset each other. This is a very normal part of life. Knowing this is true, however, caused me for years to justify what […]
Others have it much worse than me, shouldn’t I just be grateful?
Others have it much worse than me, shouldn’t I just be grateful? A Recurring Perspective One perspective that keeps surfacing from my readers goes something like this, “I read other people’s stories and hear the nightmares they are living. Physical abuse, alcohol and drugs, sex addiction and cheating. Mine simply isn’t that bad. Sure, he […]
Don’t Over-Compensate for the Narcissistic Parent
Don’t Over-Compensate for the Narcissistic Parent When our co-parent is abusing our children in any way, it is extremely easy to over-compensate by trying to erase all the bad feelings in our child. Our intentions are good. We know that those bad feelings are coming from the way they are being treated. So if we […]
What Happens when a Narcissist Tries to “Fix” that Broken Relationship?
What Happens when a Narcissist Tries to “Fix” that Broken Relationship? When does a relationship with a narcissist get worse? When that narcissist decides that they must “fix” the relationship. When they decide to “take charge” of making things right. This is a disaster! What Does “Fix” the Relationship Mean to a Narcissist? It means: […]
Why do narcissists give only misery?
Why do narcissists give only misery? They seem to have the best of intentions. They say they love you. They say they want what is best for you. They say they want peace and happiness with you. Yet, everyone is miserable. Why?? You can only really give that which you have. If all you have […]
Sometimes We Stay for Our Kids…..At Least For A While
Sometimes We Stay for Our Kids…..At Least For A While I am right now at the point of making the single hardest decision I have ever made. Do I stay or do I leave? Do I file for divorce or do I keep putting it off? This is NOT an easy decision. It is one […]
Narcissists: Is it Okay to Love Them and Still Walk Away?
Narcissists: Is it Okay to Love Them and Still Walk Away? Absolutely YES!!! I hear so many people questioning themselves about walking away from abusive relationships. If this is you, please read on. First let me say, I fully recognize that narcissists and abusive partners can definitely be male or female. For the ease of […]